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6 January 2018
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Man found dead in car with burning coal inside
KOTA KINABALU: A businessman was found dead in his car after he was believed to have locked himself in with a lit barbeque set with burning coal, at the Tanjung Aru beach near here Friday (Jan 5) evening.
The businessman, Liew Ka Ket, 42, was discovered by policemen conducting patrols at the area, and was later pronounced dead by medical officials who arrived at the scene.
Kota Kinabalu police chief Asst Comm M. Chandra said two policemen saw the car parked suspiciously in the bushes at 5.27pm, and when they went to check, found the man inside.
“The policemen tried to force open the doors but could not as it was locked from the inside, and had to wait for firemen to arrive before it could be broken into,” he said.
ACP Chandra said upon inspection, the policemen found a barbeque set placed inside the car, with its coal still burning.
“Liew is believed to have suffocated from the smoke from the coal and died,” he added.
23 December 2017
December 23, 2017
Harussani tells Muslims not to join vigils for dead K-pop star
PETALING JAYA: The mufti of Perak says Muslims are forbidden from joining candlelight vigils in memory of the late K-pop star Kim Jong-hyun who committed suicide earlier this week.
The New Straits Times today reported Harussani Zakaria as saying that such an activity was against Islamic teachings and akin to “glorifying” Kim’s death.
He questioned why Muslims should pray for a non-Muslim like Kim.
“No, you can’t do that because it is haram (forbidden). If the artist or individual was a Muslim, then we should recite Al-Fatihah for him,” Harussani was quoted as saying.
“But if the person was a non-Muslim, why are we praying for him to go to heaven?
“On top of that, he committed suicide. Why are we following the culture of infidels? What will you get out of it?” he added.
Harussani said there were better things for Muslims to do than mourn a celebrity who had taken his own life.
On Thursday night, nearly 200 white-clad fans gathered near Kuala Lumpur’s Masjid Jamek to pay tribute to Kim with speeches, balloons and candles.
The Asian Correspondent reported that the street tribute went on for about 90 minutes before police stepped in and politely asked the crowd to disperse as the public assembly was held without a permit.
December 22, 2017
Street tribute for late K-pop star broken up by cops
PETALING JAYA: A public gathering to pay tribute to late K-pop star Kim Jong-hyun near Kuala Lumpur’s Masjid Jamek went ahead smoothly last night despite intervention by the police.
Catherine Tan, a Malaysian studying at the University of London and a devoted fan of Kim, had organised the assembly without a permit.
The Asian Correspondent reported that the street tribute went on for about 90 minutes before police stepped in and politely asked the crowd to disperse as it was illegal.
Many conservative Muslims also took a dim view of the event for two reasons.
Firstly, they viewed negatively the fanaticism shown by some of Kim’s fans and, secondly, Kim’s death by suicide was not considered religiously acceptable as killing oneself is deemed sinful by most mainstream Muslims.
Despite the criticism, a sizeable number of Muslims were among the fans who participated in the event.
“I’m just here to pay my respects to him. I don’t think my presence is against any Islamic principles,” a 17-year-old Muslim youngster, who preferred to remain anonymous, was quoted as saying by the Asian Correspondent.
The event was attended by almost 200 white-clad fans who brought balloons, gave speeches and lit candles to honour Kim.
“It’s a chance and effort to let the fans find closure and provide a small amount of comfort,” Tan, 21, was quoted as saying.
She said it was a way to tell the fans that they are not alone.
The mild controversies may have brought about an increased awareness about depression and those bent on suicide.
According to a tweet from journalist Sumisha Naidu, crisis hotline centre Befrienders Kuala Lumpur saw emails from Malaysian youths struggling with suicidal thoughts almost double after Kim’s death.
21 December 2017
December 21, 2017
Star’s suicide highlights dark side of the K-pop dream
SEOUL: Known for its ultra-competitive, pressure-cooker society, South Korea has one of the world’s highest suicide rates. And this week the even higher stresses in the country’s lucrative showbiz industry took their toll on a K-pop superstar.
Kim Jong-Hyun, a 27-year-old lead singer of the hugely popular boy band SHINee, took his own life in a Seoul hotel room on Monday, with his death sending shockwaves through fans around the world.
Five-member SHINee were at the forefront of the “Korean Wave” that has seen South Korean pop culture sweep Asia by storm in the past decade and lap at shores even further afield.
The band has found fame and fortune with multiple chart-topping albums and sold-out concerts at home and abroad since their debut in 2008.
But a grittier reality lies beneath the glitz and glamour of the K-pop scene — cutthroat competition, a lack of privacy, online bullying and relentless public pressure to maintain a wholesome image at all times and at any cost.
Many stars like Kim are picked up by agencies at a young age, usually in their early or mid teens, their lives then taken over by gruelling singing and dancing training, with the ever-present risk of falling foul of a cut-throat screening process.
Holidays are rare and privacy an unaffordable luxury as many live with other band mates in dorm-like apartments provided by their agents, who dictate everything from music styles and diet regimen to mobile phone use — and normally impose dating bans.
Many struggle with a constant lack of sleep and privacy.
Many K-pop stars face tremendous pressure to look and behave perfectly in an industry powered by so-called “fandoms” — groups of well-organised admirers who spend enormous amounts of time and money to help their favoured stars climb up the charts and attack their perceived rivals.
In return, the stars are expected to tread carefully in an industry where today’s most-fervent fans can be tomorrow’s most vicious critics if their idols fail to meet their expectations — or “betray” them.
Many are constantly chased by paparazzi and camera-touting fans who share or sell every single detail and images of the stars’ daily lives online for public scrutiny.
“These ‘idols’ virtually live in a fishbowl and are pressed to put on a smiley, happy face while behaving nicely 24/7,” said cultural commentator Kim Seong-Soo, adding the strain could “cripple them emotionally”.
K-POP STARS AND SUICIDAL THOUGHTS
K-pop stars undergo cut-throat competition and gruelling years-long training at the hands of agents, who dictate everything from music style to diet and even mobile phone use.
A master’s thesis by a prominent Seoul actress in 2009 said that 40% of actors or actresses had considered suicide at least once due to a lack of privacy, online bullying or unstable incomes.
20 December 2017
Depression afflicts many people worldwide and to mark World Health Day on Friday, the World Health Organisation wants people to talk more openly about this disorder which, as the writer explains, is treatable.
In so many aspects, depression as a disorder remains very much an enigma – so complex is the interplay of multiple factors, including genetic vulnerability, early childhood experiences, abnormal brain chemistry, personality, and precipitating and aggravating external stressors in various permutations.
As a psychiatrist, I’ve seen depression happening to some people after a very minor environmental trigger; while others who aren’t that vulnerable require a really major and disastrous life event to plunge them into depression; still others would develop depression without any obvious external cause – just as there is no such thing as an average person, no two patients are identical in the aetiology and manifestation of their misery.
One of the greatest fears that my psychiatrist colleagues and I have is of suicide in our patients with depression. Our fear is always that those patients who in the grip of intolerable anguish can see no way out, and will not allow themselves the option of any help that can pull them away from that abyss. They often feel that family and friends will be better off without them and so they believe that their death will remove a burden from those who care for them – when, in fact, the opposite is true. What is saddening about such deaths is that they are preventable if these individuals had given themselves more time, and sought and received the proper psychiatric care or hospitalisation.
Worldwide, there are about 350 million people of all ages, all walks of life, all races, creeds and classes, who suffer from depression. Other than the individual personal costs, the societal impact of depression stems from its relative pervasiveness among the population; from its early onset (typically starting in adolescence or early adult life) coupled with its recurrent nature; to its multifarious impairments – which often lead to a loss of productivity, a poor quality of life, and even premature death.
The writer is vice-chairman of the medical board (research) at the Institute of Mental Health.
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Suicide note tells of loneliness
- ASEAN/East Asia
Wednesday, 20 Dec 2017
Seoul: A top K-pop star wrote in a suicide note that he was “broken from inside” and “engulfed” by depression, it emerged as his death sent shockwaves among fans worldwide.
Kim Jong-hyun, 27-year-old lead singer of the hugely popular K-pop boyband SHINee, was found in a hotel room in the South Korean capital Seoul in what police said was suicide.
A coal briquette was burning on a frying pan – a common method of self-killing in South Korea, an ultra-competitive society with one of the world’s highest suicide rates.
Kim’s close friend, musician Nain9, released a suicide note on her Instagram account, saying he had asked her to publish the message in the event of his death.
“I am broken from inside. The depression that gnawed on me slowly has finally engulfed me entirely,” it said, adding he “couldn’t defeat it anymore”.
“I was so alone,” he went on. “The act of ending is difficult. I’ve lived until now because of that difficulty.”
“Please tell me I did a good job,” he implored, ending the note with:
“You’ve worked hard. You’ve really gone through a lot. Goodbye.”